The true hero is one who conquers their own anger and hatred.

— Dalai Lama

Conquering anger and hatred doesn’t mean abolishing it completely from your being.

Anger is a natural manifestation of frustration, injustice, insecurity, fear; and can be a self defense mechanism. Knowing how to deal with your anger is important in leading a healthy life.

Anger takes a toll on the body in a myriad of ways from high blood pressure, headaches and can be so stressful that it impairs your immune system.

When we are seeing red it is near impossible to think correctly. We are not productive. We are caught in just that emotion.

Then there is the toll on the relationships around you.

Anger comes from within. It is our reaction to external pressures and internal thoughts and feelings. You can learn to grapple your anger and dig into the core to resolve these feelings. This can change your reaction to these external pressures.

We all feel these things. Knowing how to cope and deal so they don’t negatively impact our lives is important for our well being and our relationships. 

As wise master Yoda said, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to Anger, Anger leads to Hate, Hate…to suffering”

Being angry once and a while is certainly human and completely normal. When it is social injustice, that anger when not self consuming can spark action to a better world.

Working through an argument and anger with someone you love and care about is a key part of a healthy relationship.

Doing what we can to resolve our anger and to resolve the underlying causes of that anger so that it doesn’t continue is indeed a heroic undertaking. Applaud yourself for working to grow as a person. These are not easy, but they are infinitely rewarding.